Last Night Took an “L” But…

Big Sean once said, “last night took an L but tonight I bounced back.” That’s what we have to do! Bounce back!!

Failed a final❌? The whole class❎? That’s okay. It’s not the end of the world. It may feel like it, but it’s not. Take the class over. You’ll get that good grade. 

Someone did you wrong💔?  Okay; it’s okay to feel a certain way and be hurt for a little but don’t let that turn into bitterness. Work out your feelings, bounce back, and boss up.  

Running low on money☹️? Take care of your bills/priorities and wait for your next check to come in. Go into work with a positive attitude and a smile while you’re waiting. 

The list could go on and on and on but the point is to not let things that can be minor affect you more than they should. Have you ever been stressed about something and it threw your aura off for the whole day? I hate that! We’re humans, we feel, we get upset, we know that someone/something is wrong but we have to overcome. We have to come up with solutions or use wisdom that we gained in a situation for the future. We have to say okay you did that but I’ll be good. I may be hurt right now but I’ll be good. I may be broke right now but I will be well off. I may have failed that class but I will graduate. I may not have a car right now but I’m speaking a new one into existence. I may have just lost my job but guess what I’m filling out apps all day knowing I’ll get something better. Once again, mind over matter. When we speak positive thoughts everything changes. That’s the art of the bounce back. 

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Tips:

1. Acknowledge  your feelings and/or frustrations. Having a journal can change your life. Even if it’s not a journal, writing stuff out on paper is magical. Write it out. Pray about it. Cry about it. Talk to your closest friends. Do whatever you need to do to release.

2. Strategize. Figure out what you’re going to do. You might not need this step; you might be fine after you write and choose not to stress about something. 

3. Do it– Bounce back! You had your moment to be down but you’re good now! It is not about what troubles you, but how you get up and dust yourself off. 

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Imagine Me

Everyone has their insecure moments, but we always have to remember we are FEARFULLY and WONDERFULLY Created. We are made perfect in the image of God.

Psalm 139:14 – I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful. I know that full well (New International Version)

Insecurities do not just come in the form of physical inadequacies, but also in feelings that you are not good enough or cannot do something. All of these come from society, others around you, and the ideas of what someone should look/be like. Let’s not live by the rules of this world. Shouldn’t what God says be what you believe? God says you are beautiful. God says you can do anything with Him by your side. Don’t listen to what others have to say about you or your ambitions.

Genesis 1:27 – So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female (New International Version).

Philippians 4:13 – I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me (New King James Version).

In relation to image, do not hate what God has given you. God made you tall or short or skinny or black or white or Asian or dark or light with short hair or long hair with freckles or moles or any other physical attributes for a reason. You may be made to relate to a certain set of people because of your image (From a Heather Lindsey video, not her exact words.) Your testimony may come from what you look(ed) like, which can help others in the same situation.

Testimonies:

Though I thought I knew the plans God had for me He said no, I’m the creator. I would need prayers of righteous people who wouldn’t stop praying over me. The devil would not use my mind, body, or soul as his playground as he imagined. Meeting other college students in a campus ministry is when I knew God was up to something. I was wondering how I was going to grow in this new environment with more temptation and expectations. The new season He was preparing me for could only be endured by connecting with other believers. – Racquel

“I grew up with bad acne. It was tough because people picked in me relentlessly. I even cried about it when I was alone. I wish I would have understood 1 Samuel 16:7. God’s approval is all we need!” – La’Fred

1 Samuel 16:7 – But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look at his appearance or at his physical stature, because I have refused him. For the Lord does not see as man sees; for a man looks at the outward appearance but the Lord looks at the heart” (New King James Version).

If you are contemplating your next steps or have those around you who bring your confidence down by saying you cannot do something and are always being negative this testimony will help.

His wisdom will help you make decisions that are best for your future. We are instructed to find delight in the Lord and He will give us the desires of our hearts. What are your desires? What are your dreams and aspirations? Are they similar to God’s for your life in the building of the kingdom? We must be sure our desires don’t take priority over our relationships with God. 

Proverbs 3:26 – For the Lord shall be thy confidence , and shall keep thy foot from being taken (King James Version).

Songs of Solomon 4:7 – You are altogether beautiful my love, there is no flaw in you (English Standard Version).

Do not be conformed to the thoughts people in this world have about you. You are beautiful/handsome! Your image is perfect because God made you! Don’t feel inadequate, You can do anything! You can be anything you want! Don’t be insecure, You are worthy! 

Nobody’s Perfect

I won’t lie, I rewrote this introduction like four times because I want what I’m trying to say to come out in a perfect sentence. As I’m writing this I had a very duh Gabby lightbulb moment. God made an example out of me for what I wanted to talk about. I thought it’s not going to be perfect, just write. That’s  what we have to do in life; know that it won’t always be perfect but to keep pushing.

I’m very relaxed at the moment, hair braided up like looking like Little Bow Wow 😂 with pajamas on, and some worship music playing in the background. I say this to remove those perceptions of myself being and looking perfect and that’s what this whole post is about! No one is perfect!! The person who hurt you IS NOT PERFECT; forgive them and try to understand their position (that doesn’t mean you have to be their best friend or even talk to them, it just means you’ll have a burden taken off of your soul. That’s one less scar on your heart and will help you heal.) 2 Corinthians 2:10 – When you forgive this man, I forgive him too. And when I forgive whatever needs to be forgiven, I do so with Christ’s authority for your benefit (New Living Translation.) Your favorite minister, preacher, or Christian blogger ( thank you 😎) IS NOT PERFECT. Sometimes we begin to idolize people we look up to which is not healthy. You want to be them, do what they’re doing, go where they’re going but that’s probably not God’s plan for you. Psalms 106:36 – They worshiped their idols, which led to their downfall (New Living Translation.) It is okay to admire someone, it is not okay when admiration becomes obsession and you can’t distinguish yourself from them. You don’t have to agree with everything someone says or everything they do. I can be watching a sermon or something of that sort and be like “no no no you’re wrong ” because while I do respect that person for who they are in Christ and what they do sometimes I just don’t agree. I do not cling to their every word like white on rice, but take away only what I felt connected to. Your friends with the flawless Instagram photos, who are always having fun in their Snapchat story, and sharing new experiences on Facebook ARE NOT PERFECT. Romans 8:28 – For we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them (New Living Translation.) If it hasn’t already your time will come for new experiences, you will be the person having all of the fun, you’ll find a look that you really love. Proclaim it! Also remember some people post on social media or even act very happy in person to cover up what is really going on. (You never know what someone is going through. Sometimes I say Lord I pray for everyone I came in contact with today; I pray that they be blessed, content, healed…)

I have been trying to stay off of Instagram today while I figured I had to time I needed to spend with God instead of worrying about what everyone else is doing. I got that distinct Holy Spirit instruction (for once lol) to get on. ( You’ll know when The Holy Spirit is instructing you. If not pray for it and the discernment to know the difference along with fasting if you feel led.) I had already planned on writing about this topic and saw this photo someone from my old church had posted. I thought this is perfect! This is true for everyone. So today I encourage you to understand the human in everyone.

                                   

The Book of Job: Life’s Ultimate Tests

This morning I woke up and got the urge to read chapters 1 and 2 of the Book of Job. (I’ve actually had the urge for two days, oops. But timing is also everything; it was important that it was done today.) As I opened my Bible app I thought I should read the whole book. I already knew the enemy told God that Job would turn away from Him if he was tested, but Job didn’t in the first two chapters. I thought, “well there must be a bigger lesson that needs to be learned if there are more chapters in this book. Now, if yall don’t know the Book of Job is 42 chapters and the individual chapters are very long. I know my limits, so I decided to turn on the read-out-loud feature. Somehow I opened my eyes and I was in Psalms lol. I went back to 30 and finished Job. Here is a summary of the occurrences: the enemy asked God for permission to test Job so he could prove that Job would turn from God. Job lost everything (his livestock, children, and possessions.) He did not blame God, instead he was still thankful and faithful. As the book went on Job began to complain and groan over and over and over again. He said God would not talk to him and he is punishing him for no reason. He lost his faith. Job complained to his friends daily; he was annoying them as they tried to tell him the truth about his situation. Job put the full blame on God instead of taking responsibility for the actions of him and his children. A young man named Elihu stepped up to talk some sense into Job. He was afraid at first because he is young and thought no one would respect him. Next God went IN on Job (I was literally laughing in my head because He got Job all the way together.) Job was dumbfounded. Job 42:2&3- “I know that you can do all things;  no purpose of yours can be thwarted. 3 You asked, ‘Who is this that obscures my plans without knowledge?’ Surely I spoke of things I did not understand, things too wonderful for me to know (NIV)”. Job learned his lesson, restored his faith, and ended up being blessed with everything he had before plus more!
After listening to the book I got on YouTube to watch a sermon since I missed church. I watched a Heather Lindsey video that caught my eye and said some things I really needed to hear. My favorite sermons to watch online are Joel Osteen’s. I started three different videos, but I knew I was not supposed to watch those ones in this moment. On the suggested videos bar I saw one entitled Don’t Let the Pain Hurt. I got that Holy Spirit feeling of “that’s the one.” Here are my notes from the sermon:

  • There is a purpose for the pain.
  • A woman felt extreme pains for a while and no one could figure out what was causing them. When she was rushed to the hospital the doctor said, “I know exactly what the problem is. 90 minutes later she delivered a baby. She didn’t know why she had the pain, but there was  great purpose that produced new fruit and opportunities (the baby.) Just like the woman we can be pregnant with pain, but what we birth will so amazing.
  • How the pain changes you is up to you (because it will change you in some way.)
  • The enemy may turn on the fire, but God has control of the thermostat.
  • Every Struggle is making you stronger.
  • We were not created to float on the flowery beds of life with no troubles.
  • If God allowed it, He knows how to bring good out of it.
  • You can come out bitter, or can come out better.
  • “I’m mot a whiner, I’m a warrior.”
  • Don’t waste you pain! Turn it into something great.
  • Joel’s mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer with a few weeks to live. Instead of feeling down and out, she went out and encouraged others. She turned her pain into encouragement and she is still alive today!
  • A couple in the church found out their son had autism. Instead of being defeated they started the “Champions Club” for children with special needs in their church. The Champions Club has now spread to many churches.
  • A mother found out that her daughter was killed while she was walking to church. She took her pain and created Mother’s Against Drunk Driving. (I was amazed when I heard this one because I wrote about this organization for school before.)
  • Don’t put a question mark where God put a period!

I was just thinking about my situation while I was watching this. I realized once again everything happens for a reason. I had to be uncomfortable and go through a little bit of pain in order to write these posts this weekend. I am going through things, but others are as well. I am taking my pain and turning it into encouragement for you all. I also logged out all of my social media apps on my phone because I find myself checking them too many times throughout the day. I could have used social media and Netflix binged all weekend as a distraction, but that would equate to me running away from my problems. I needed to go to God and pour out my troubles to Him. I also needed to read the word; the bible always has a solution to your problems. The last step in this process is applying what I have learned. I encourage you all to do the same whenever you run into a sticky situation. I feel so much better. ( Yall, I was going through it at the conception of this post lol. Heartbreak 101)

2 Corinthians 4: 3-7 3 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. 5 For just as we share abundantly in the sufferings of Christ, so also our comfort abounds through Christ. 6 If we are distressed, it is for your comfort and salvation; if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which produces in you patient endurance of the same sufferings we suffer. 7 And our hope for you is firm, because we know that just as you share in our sufferings,so also you share in our comfort.

I could have been down but…

Yall God works in some mysterious ways. Today I was getting all kinds of conformations!
First, let me start off by explaining why I chose this specific title. Yesterday I got a notification from my school saying they “suspended my card” which means I cannot use my meal plan or swipe into any facility (because I still have a small amount of my tuition I need to pay). I must admit, I did begin to panic but God reminded me of a verse I have read many times. That verse is Philippians 13: 11 & 12.
I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances.  I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. (NIV)

He told me not to worry. I knew I had food in my room, money in my bank account, and I could get buzzed into my dorm. Inconvenience? Yes. Setback? No. I learned to be content with or without things. My friend unexpectedly brought over some cash she borrowed and I woke up with even more money in my account. I felt like that was God saying, “see, I will take care of you and give you more than what you need in any situation. Trust me, and you will see the overflow.” I am so glad I didn’t get worked up because trust me I really almost did. That email was the first thing I saw when I woke up which made me think I was going to have a bad day.

It’s all in the mindset. Even if things are not going the way we want them to go we need to think positively. We also have to remember the people in way worse situations and see we don’t have much to complain about compared to our blessings.

Have Joy

“So I concluded there is nothing better than to be happy and enjoy ourselves as long as we can.” Ecclesiastes 3:12 NLT

This one sentence is so important in life. We must be not only be happy, but also have joy in good times and bad. We must enjoy ourselves and do things for ourselves. We must take care of ourselves. We must celebrate ourselves sometimes. Just be happy, there is nothing better than always having your joy. 

Recently a lot of great things have been happening for me and I only see more coming in the near future. Though the road to these successes have/may not be easy I’ve realized being happy and looking forward to better always helps. I get even happier when I see the fruits of my labor. 

The whole chapter, which all blessed me is below.

“For everything there is a season,

a time for every activity under heaven.
A time to be born and a time to die.
A time to plant and a time to harvest. 

A time to kill and a time to heal.
A time to tear down and a time to build up.
A time to cry and a time to laugh.
A time to grieve and a time to dance.
A time to scatter stones and a time to gather stones.
A time to embrace and a time to turn away.
A time to search and a time to quit searching.
A time to keep and a time to throw away.
A time to tear and a time to mend.
A time to be quiet and a time to speak.
A time to love and a time to hate.
A time for war and a time for peace.

What do people really get for all their hard work? 

I have seen the burden God has placed on us all. 

Yet God has made everything beautiful for its own time. He has planted eternity in the human heart, but even so, people cannot see the whole scope of God’s work from beginning to end. 

So I concluded there is nothing better than to be happy and enjoy ourselves as long as we can. 

And people should eat and drink and enjoy the fruits of their labor, for these are gifts from God.

And I know that whatever God does is final. Nothing can be added to it or taken from it. God’s purpose is that people should fear him. 

What is happening now has happened before, and what will happen in the future has happened before, because God makes the same things happen over and over again.

I also noticed that under the sun there is evil in the courtroom. Yes, even the courts of law are corrupt! 

I said to myself, “In due season God will judge everyone, both good and bad, for all their deeds.”
I also thought about the human condition—how God proves to people that they are like animals. 

For people and animals share the same fate—both breathe[a] and both must die. So people have no real advantage over the animals. How meaningless!

Both go to the same place—they came from dust and they return to dust.

For who can prove that the human spirit goes up and the spirit of animals goes down into the earth?

So I saw that there is nothing better for people than to be happy in their work. That is our lot in life. And no one can bring us back to see what happens after we die.”

Circles & Cycles

Many times we go through the same old, boring, draining cycles.

There may be a cycle with a certain friend where you have your periods of smooth sailing and periods where you don’t talk because someone is angry or simply not a good friend.

There may be a cycle with a family member where there are times you are always helping them but, when you need favors they are not around.

There may be a cycle with your significant other where you break up, get back together for a couple of months, and then break up again.

There may be a cycle of you working really hard, only to lose momentum give up.

Whatever your cycle is; it’s time to cut it!

Doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different result is the definition of insanity. I know I don’t want to go insane. You cannot always drain yourself, be angry, or even lose yourself because you end up in the same cycle. I know you want to be that person’s friend, or help your family member, or stay with the person you are with but if the results are the same every time, you are wasting your time.

If it is evident that someone is trying to change for the better (and end the cycle that you are in), it doesn’t hurt to give them a chance. Do not enable them! If you’re the one who always sends the first text message, let them reach out to you. Remember people make time for what they want to make time for. With that being said, you deserve mutual respect, honesty, and love.

If your cycle does not include anyone else, but it seems like it’s you against yourself, find some motivation! Find ways to stay happy and keep your momentum. You make time for what you want to make time for. Make time for yourself. Make time for your growth, hopes, and dreams. Nothing is impossible when you believe 😃